If you’re wondering what to do next in life, I get that, as I’ve been there before, several times. This is one of the hardest questions to answer, especially when you know something needs to change but you’re not sure what that something is or where to begin.
In this post, I’ll show you how to start spotting the clues your life is already sending you and how to use those clues to figure out your next step.
Your Life Is Already Giving You Answers (You’re Just Not Seeing Them)
Here’s what most people don’t realize: when you’re trying to figure out what to do next in life, your life is already in the process of helping you make this change, even in some small subtle way.
We often think that when this occurs to us, nothing has happened yet, but I’ve learned over the years that the opposite it true—things are already in motion.
Let me give you an example from my own life. A while back, I was waiting to see if anyone would sign up for a workshop I’d created. I told myself: if this workshop sells, I’ll keep going in my current direction. If it doesn’t, I’ll pivot to the new direction, which is what I secretly wanted to do anyway.
Days passed with nothing. Then I got a sale notification in my email. I felt both excited and disappointed at the same time. A sale is always exciting, but I worried what it would mean. But when I looked closer, I realized the sale wasn’t for the workshop at all—it was for another product I’d had available for months.
I started laughing because it felt like the universe was toying with me. It dangled the possibility that maybe I should stay on my old path, but then revealed: nope, that’s not it. This was actually a sign pointing me toward the new direction.
That’s how life signals work. They show up in little moments, gut pulls, coincidences, or things that linger with you. It’s like your life speaks to you in a different language, and you have to learn how to interpret what it’s saying.
What to Do Next in Life: Treating Signals Like Data, Not Woo-Woo
Before we go further, let me be clear about what I’m NOT suggesting:
I’m not telling you to see one sign on a Tuesday and quit your job on Wednesday. I’m not saying to pull over because a license plate said “yes” and make a rash decision. And I’m definitely not talking about some cosmic billboard showing up to give you a dramatic life epiphany.
Life signals don’t come in flashing lights or big billboards. They come in little nudges, whispers from your inner voice, or moments that land with a certain kind of weight—you just feel them more.
The problem? If you’re not paying attention, you’ll walk right past them. And then you stay stuck in this confused place where you’re not sure what to do next in life.
I’m asking you to notice the signals your life is probably already giving you and treat them less as something woo-woo and more as scientific data. Think of them as clues in a mystery story that your life is leaving behind.
How to Figure Out What to Do Next in Life: Understanding Your Personal Signals
Here’s where it gets tricky: the signals your life sends you are different for everybody. A clue that might stop you in your tracks might glide past someone else without even a flicker because it doesn’t apply to them.
The signals aren’t standardized. I can’t tell you, for example, to watch for this or that sign or to look for this wild animal or that number reappearing, because life signals are very personal. That’s why learning to spot your own signals matters way more than trying to find one big sign or listening to what someone else tells you to look for.
Another thing: there’s rarely just one big signal that says “yes, go this way.” Instead, life shows signals in little clusters or groups, then layers them as you go along.
On one day, you might hear from someone you haven’t thought about in years. Another day, you might see a phrase in an old journal that holds weight for you. Maybe someone says something at work that you’re still thinking about five hours later.
What Do Life Signals Actually Look Like?
For some people, signals might be:
- Seeing a certain wild animal at a time when they’ve never seen one before.
- A random job listing that mirrors something they were thinking about two weeks earlier.
- An important person calling out of the blue.
- A child’s innocent comment that stirs something inside them.
- Canceled plans that make them feel relieved rather than disappointed (especially if they’re experiencing burnout).
These signals usually aren’t loud. They come in quietly, and often slip in from the side. You only catch them if you’re paying attention to what moves you—not what’s important to anybody else, but what stirs you.
The 3-Step System for Figuring Out What to Do Next in Life
When you’re trying to determine what to do next in life, most people rely on their brains. I did this many times, and it only caused frustration! But I would try to think about it, write pros and cons lists, or ask others for advice.
There’s nothing wrong with any of that. But there’s a more solid way forward that will help you get more excited about where you’re going because it will be more likely to be true to you. You start by listening to life signals, then you catch those signals by writing them down, and track what they’re saying to you.
When you catch and track these signals, you’re giving yourself evidence—real evidence you can look to when figuring out what needs to come next.
Step 1: Catch What Catches You
The first step in knowing what to do next in life is simple: start paying more attention. Start noticing what your life is trying to tell you.
Maybe there’s a phrase that hits you and you pause long enough to underline it. Maybe there’s a feeling in your gut after a conversation, or there’s a podcast episode that seems particularly important.
These are signals trying to get through to you. When one stands out, catch it. And by catch it, I simply mean: write it down. Even if you’re not sure why it matters, write it down.
Keep a journal, a document, a notes app—anything where you can record these moments. Write: “This happened today and it felt interesting because XYZ.” You’re collecting data.
Here’s an example from my life: For months, I kept feeling pulled toward something new. But I wasn’t sure if it was real or just me trying to escape my current situation. So I started writing down what was actually showing up:
- A random podcast episode about quitting too soon where the host said something that stuck with me
- A phrase I kept seeing repeated: “trust what’s pulling you forward”
- A feeling of restlessness underneath everything
- A feeling of boredom with what I was already doing
As I started writing these down, I started noticing even more. It’s like the instant you tune into your life, you start getting more messages and understanding more of what it’s telling you. That’s the first step: catch these signals and write them down.
Step 2: Track the Repeats When Deciding What to Do Next in Life
When you start jotting things down—even just a sentence or two at a time—you’ll start seeing patterns show up. Not immediately. Usually it takes at least a few weeks. But over days and weeks, you’ll start noticing things like:
- The same message keeps showing up
- You’ve written about this feeling three times now
- That job post sounds like a journal entry you wrote a week ago
That’s where the gold is. Not the signals by themselves, but what a group of them starts to reveal when you see them in the context of your life as a whole.
The shift that took me into building The Next Story Project didn’t come from one magical sign. It came from the slow buildup of signals I had tracked. One of those was a James Clear quote I stumbled across on Instagram that landed like it was aimed directly at me. It addressed doubts I had shortly after I’d had them.
I wrote it down: “Here’s what happened. Here’s how I felt about it.” That was just one signal of many. It didn’t say “you have to launch this now.” It just addressed one doubt and started fitting in with the patterns forming as I looked at these signals as a whole.
I could see that I was already going in the new direction. My life was already gradually taking me that way. That gave me the data, the evidence, and the reassurance that I could give this new direction a try.
Step 3: Let the Pattern Pull You Forward
Once you start seeing a possible pattern or theme, you don’t have to force clarity. You don’t have to say “okay, now I’m going to jump.” That’s not necessary at all.
When we’re facing change, it’s frightening. We’d often prefer to shut it down than explore it. But with this system, you don’t have to do that. You catch the signals, track them, see what patterns show up, and then just start to follow where that’s pulling you with little tiny steps.
You make small decisions for small actions aligned with what’s showing up in your life. That might mean:
- Having a conversation with someone
- Researching something new
- Shifting your schedule to give yourself time to explore this new avenue
- Saying no to a project that no longer feels alive to you
The map to where you need to go next doesn’t arrive all at once. We wish it would. A lot of us feel like we can’t move forward until the entire map is laid out. But that rarely happens.
If you’re feeling restless and like something needs to change, and you just keep waiting, things are going to get worse. That feeling will grow more acute. It’ll keep needling you and bugging you.
When you catch and track your signals this way, the next step you take is something small toward the pattern that’s pulling at you. You’re dipping your toe in the water and seeing where that takes you. Then you use the data you collect from that to build into your system.
Step by step, you collect data from your life. And then you take little steps toward your new direction. This system helps reduce the fear you feel when thinking about making a shift in your life.
What to Do Next in Life When You’ve Been Ignoring the Signals
If you’re anything like me, you’ve had moments that felt meaningful—like your life or intuition was trying to tell you something—but you didn’t write it down. So you forgot about it later, and it’s like it never happened.
Your life is speaking to you, but it’s possible that you’re not hearing it or understanding it. In the moment, we think we’ll remember. But then life rushes in with everything we have to do, we get busy again, and we forget.
That’s the problem with trying to figure out what to do next in life without a system: the answers are there, but they slip away before you can use them.
Start Listening to What Your Life Is Already Telling You
When you’re in a time of transition and feeling like something needs to change, your life is already sending you clues. If you’re feeling any sensation that now is the time to make a change—even if you’re not sure what that change is—it’s probably because your life is already in the process of helping you.
The signals are there. You just need to start catching them, tracking them, and letting the patterns pull you forward.
Download my free Signals Journal to discover the 7 clues your life might be asking for change—and start tracking what your restlessness is really trying to tell you.
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